Interview with Dr. Rosalyn Grady
“I allow myself to feel everything”
These words are my mantra right now in such a time of change in my life.
A huge part of my Awakening has been about learning to feel my feelings. To do this, I had to change how I view the things that happen in my life.
Instead of seeing myself in the role of manipulating my life circumstances so that I could finally have the right conditions to be happy, I recognized the perfection of everything that is already happening in my life.
You see, now when I have a conflict arise with a person in my life, or something “bad” happens (I don’t actually use that word anymore), I see that person or situation as medicine.
I truly believe that my Divine is creating the perfect opportunities for me to work through my deepest hurts so I can heal.
Think about what happens when something triggers you. For example, a friend cancels her plans with you so she can spend more time with her boyfriend, and you feel rejected and hurt.
Most of us aren’t particularly good at allowing ourselves to feel, so we analyze the situation, stuff the feeling down and try to carry on with our lives.
Maybe in that case you would form a story “She spends all her time with that guy. She doesn’t care about me like she used to” or decide to hurt her back the way you’ve been hurt “next time she wants to get together I am going to tell her I have other plans”.
This is all just avoiding feeling the feeling.
So how do you actually feel the feeling?
What has worked for me is to first observe the sensations in the body, noticing the physical location of the feeling.
Then I take time alone to stay with the feeling. Perhaps it is sorrow in my stomach. I just stay with it, sending love to that place, and allow it to exist.
I have done this enough times now that I know by staying with the feeling, it begins to dissolve (though it sometimes gets more painful before it dissolves because I let it completely consume me).
“Anything fully experienced turns to joy” – Sri Bhagavan
Once that “charge” has dissolved, the same situation could happen again and it wouldn’t trigger you.
Doesn’t that sound nice?
It’s not something you need to pay a therapist to walk you through, it’s something you can do right now, and whenever you feel triggered. I know that every difficult situation in my life is a healing opportunity, and I hope you will see it that way for yourself too.
This topic is just one of many that I discuss in today’s episode of TerriDaviesTV.
I’m interviewing Dr. Rosalyn Grady who is one of my first spiritual teachers (and she is also my Aunt!).
Rosalyn works with the council of Thirteen Indigenous Grandmothers who have come together from across the globe to assist humankind through this incredible passage of Grand Transformation.